“Holidays in general breed unrealistic expectations. The minute you start wondering, ‘is it going to be wonderful enough?’, it never will be.”
- Pepper Schwartz, Sociologist and Author
Whether you agree with this sentiment or not, most of us have come face to face with unrealistic expectations at one time or another. It doesn’t even have to be the holidays either. We could be talking about our jobs, our kids, or most likely ourselves. The holidays just have the potential to distill all of the unrealized promises into one frantic season of swirl.
So, my holiday recommendation for myself, and for you in turn, is to slow down and take a deep breath. We all know that balance and moderation are key to overload prevention in the best of circumstances, but even more so when our environment is spinning out of control. In fact, the CDC publishes Holiday Health and Safety Tips which includes timely recommendations such as: stay warm and dry; keep a positive attitude; get enough sleep; choose healthy foods and avoid too much alcohol.
REALLY?? Not that these aren’t fantastic suggestions, but REALLY?? Why do we have to be told these things?
Maybe it’s because that during this time of year, our normal, common, and healthy behaviors get pushed aside by unrealistic expectations and all bets are off. We spend so much time planning and executing and fretting that when it’s said and done, it’s over. So, let’s make a pact with ourselves and with one another to agree that we can’t be in two places at one time, there are still only 24 hours in a day and still only seven days in a week. Will we be happier and healthier as a result? Odds are, yes. But more importantly, we won’t be left wondering if it was “wonderful enough” because we will have been there to see it for ourselves.